Love & Other Technologies

I must admit, When we were told that we had to make a 7 minute video as part of our final assignment for my Digital Media course at Deakin, I did not think I would be able to pull it off. The only video making experience I had before starting this course was making my best friend’s hen’s night video- and lets face it, that is not sufficient enough experience. Now that I have completed the video, I can say without-a-doubt that I am immensely proud of what I have achieved, There is a sense of satisfaction that you get when you complete something that you never thought you were capable of, and that is exactly what the finished product of this video has given me.

I chose to  discuss Online Dating as I had already written a blog post about some of the points that had interested me on this topic and as a result it gave me pretty good idea of the direction that i wanted to take the video. Of course, the blog post alone wasn’t enough to form an informed argument, so I did add in other points and tried as much as possible to back my arguments up with scholarly resources that were provided both as recommended readings and in the Deakin Library database. The discussion revolves mainly around the normalisation of finding love online, along with some of the positive and negative aspects of it. I also used the dating site E-Harmony as an example for most of my arguments.

For me, the hard part was not finding information, online dating is becoming more and more popular in today’s society and as a result of this there is an abundance of research available to choose from. The difficulty for me came when i began thinking about how i was going to present my arguments. I am not saying that I am not a creative person (I actually think I am pretty creative), but for me, creativity takes time, ideas come to me in the most random situations and when I least expect it.

I wanted to come up with a way to demonstrate the points that I was making in a fun an engaging way. After spending weeks thinking of different scenarios to film, I finally decided that I was going to attempt to annotate my discussions and record a voice over while doing so. Although I am happy with the end result of this, It did take a lot of time and effort, even though the drawings themselves are not so complex, it still took  a lot of time to figure out how to angle my iPad so that it would film correctly while I was drawing and also doing my best to edit each and every single video afterwards because the lighting in my room was so bad! Thankfully, I loved every minute of it!

They say that time flies when your having fun- and this could not be more true, It was only when I was exporting the final video that I realised I had spent almost 4 whole days on these drawings! I also used PowerPoint to display some of the direct quotes that I used and added some animations to make them a little bit more engaging.

I used iMovie to edit and put my video together mainly because I did have some experience with it and it is generally easy to use and not confusing. I am not going to say that everything was smooth sailing- it most definitely wasn’t. But at the end of the day, I think I have done the best that I could and I am very happy with the end result.

All the filming was done using my iPad and the PhotoBooth app on my Mac.

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References:

-DeMasi, S, 2011, Shopping for love: Online Dating and the Making of a Cyber Culture of Romance, in Seidman, S, Fischer, N and Meeks, C (eds.), Introducing the New Sexuality Studies, Routledge, Abingdon and New York, p. 207

-Tsatsou, P, 2011, ‘Gender and Sexuality in the Internet Era’, in Ross, K (ed.), The Handbook of Gender,Sex and Media, Wiley-Blackwell, Malden, p. 527

-Ramirez, A, Sumner, EM, Fleuriet, C, Cole, M, 2014, ‘When Online Dating Partner Meet Offline: The Effect of Modality Switching on Relational Communication Between Online Daters’, Journal of Computer-Mediated Communication (20), p. 101

-E-Harmony, 2016, ‘Who we are’ Available at: [www.eharmony.com.au/about/eharmony/]
Accessed on: 29th April 2016

-Music: ‘Happy’ by J-Coop CC BY. 2.0

 

My Broader Online Activity and Engagement 

I made a conscious effort to increase my level of activity since the first half of the unit and I think I succeeded in doing so. I was very active on Twitter and even managed to level up and earn myself the Golden Tiffit. I also made some Videos for the #studentonlychallenge, #MuseumMemories challenge and #IfIicouldcrowdfund Challenge. I have been blogging consistently on unit related topics and have really enjoyed doing this. I have also made comments on YouTube videos and continued to keep my about.me and Linkedin profiles up to date.

 

Dating in the Digital Age

Back home in Sri Lanka, every Sunday the Newspapers prints marriage proposals written by either parents looking to find their children a partner or sometimes they are even written by singles themselves- its actually a pretty hilarious read. When you think about it, its a very outdated concept because the days when lonely singles would desperately search the personal ads in the newspapers, slowly but surely losing all hope for finding ‘true love’, seem to be coming to an end. The rise of the internet and the ‘normalisation’ of online dating has opened new doors for singles and brings them one step closer to finding their soulmate.

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Excerpts of marriage proposals that appear in Sri Lankan Newspapers

As the internet continues to become more and more integrated into our everyday lives, it really comes as no surprise that people are flocking online to find their romantic partners. DeMasi makes an interesting point about the rise of online dating by stating that;


“Today the internet is used to do practically everything from reading the newspaper, paying bills, buying a home, searching for a job, taking educational courses and purchasing consumer items. Finding a partner through the internet represents just one more of the many activities that the technology enables.” (DeMasi, 2011, pp. 207).


In light of this, online dating sites have capitalised on this growing demand and created a plethora of websites that caters to different types of people and communities. The aim of this is to make dating easier for singles by allowing them to find people who share the same interests or are going through the same problems as themselves. generally on one of these sites, individuals are asked to fill in a questionnaire which amongst other things contains the characteristics, age, race, and sexual orientation that you prefer, and then based on their answers, the site, using a specific algorithm, calculates the results and eventually find people their perfect match based on the answers that were provided.

Online dating certainly makes it easier and for singles to form relationships, traditionally finding a compatible partner takes some time. Firstly, a partner must be found by looking around places like work, school and social circles (this is already quite limiting when you think about it) and then time needs to be spent courting and getting to know the other person before a real relationship can develop. Online dating successfully eliminates this step as the website does all this work for you by finding matches that ensure compatibility.

While this all seems efficient, the question comes to mind whether dating someone who has practically the same personality as you will eventually take the excitement that comes out of dating in the first place. With people being matched according to their preferred interests and personality traits, it discourages people to expand their horizons and experience different things.

Personally, as with most things, I believe there are both positive and negative effects of online dating. The rise of internet dating represents an interesting shift in the ways in which people are finding love in today’s society. The negative effect of this, besides the vast amount of internet trollers that are out there (and there are quite a few), is that maybe its causing people to remain within their comfort zones and not really venture out in terms of finding partners that maybe see the world in different ways than they do.

References

  • DeMasi, S 2011, ‘Shopping for love: online dating and the making of a cyber culture of romance’, in Seidman, S, Fischer, N and Meeks, C (eds.), Introducing the New Sexuality Studies, Routledge, Abingdon and New York, pp. 206-13